Whatchu gon’ do?
Life throws us problems daily; some larger than others. How you deal with those problems shapes and molds who you are. I don’t believe there is a formula to handling problems that is guaranteed to make them easy. Each issue is different; each individual is unique. What I do think though is that you need to evaluate each situation you face and devise a course of action for it.
Venting and complaining are one in the same. Or should I say venting becomes complaining when you don’t put a plan of action into place. I think it’s because of that I have a hard time venting because I don’t want to sound like I am complaining. That’s my own personal struggle though. A plan of action is mandatory if you want to see the issue change. It’s really that simple. Talking isn’t going to fix anything. What are you going to do about it? And you have to assess: what do I have control to fix and what is out of my control? If you can, then devise a plan and act on it. A plan is no good without the follow through. If you can’t, let it go. You can’t control anyone else’s actions, only you own. And you can’t force your thoughts and/or opinions on someone expecting them to do what you think is best. Everyone is their own person and while you may be ready to take action, they may not be. Fear of losing something or someone can not be a factor in you plan. You have to be willing to let go of the source of conflict if you have to in order to come to a resolution.
I’ve been having this very conversation with a few people in my life, some more often than others. I recognize that you don’t truly grasp a concept until you are ready to. So I’m not one to talk them til I am blue in the face about it. If you ask me, I will tell you what I think. What you do with it is on you. And if we talk about it again, I won’t throw it in your face. Why? Because I wouldn’t want ‘I told you so’ thrown at me in the same situation. Doing the same things expecting different results clearly doesn’t work. But sometimes you don’t see that you are in that circle until you are ready to break it. Ehh, such is life; we all have to learn some kind of way.
