Cyclical Reevaluation
It could just be my imagination, but I swear it seems like every three months or so I get a call or email or text or IM from some guy I have dated at some point who wants to explain to me how they have reevaluated and reinvented themselves and want to show me how they have “changed”. I don’t really get it. Do guys run down their contacts and decide to just get back in touch and see what jumps off? It’s pretty amusing actaully…especially when the same one does it every few months or so.
With me there’s not much going back. I won’t say never, but you have to really, really be “in the door” to have any opportunity at coming back for a second go round. And if you are looking for a third, you may as well stop wasting your time. Do guys really think we are that needy? Or is it that some of us are and make it harder for those who aren’t?
Some women would rather have a no good man than no man at all. So if they fell for “him” once and he has also “changed” for the better then they are game. I’ve seen it happen quite a few times. In some cases I don’t think it is wrong to “try again” but I think it should take more than a “Hi honey I’ve changed” to do it.
Comment by MzB — October 17, 2005 @ 7:47 pm
the answer is yes to both. yes some guys do run down this list of previous chicks to see who will “open the door.”
and yes, there are enough women who will “let them back in” that it makes it harder for the res of th women.
at the same token, that behavior also affects the rest of us guys who do not go back down that road. we catch some hell from the woman we just met.
Comment by furious.styles — October 17, 2005 @ 10:33 pm